Capital NVC

Note: Actual date will be decided by polling those interested in attending who respond prior to Feb. 9. See below.

There are ways that we can think we're "doing NVC" when we're actually doing the opposite, acting in a way that is not aligned with NVC consciousness. When this happens, it can be a big turn-off, leading people to hate what they think is NVC. This is particularly tragic when in happens in a context where we're trying to teach NVC to others. I know this never happens for you, but I'm sure it does for some people somewhere.

Even in the more common cases when we're not doing anything that stimulates an extreme reaction like hatred, there is often a gap between our understanding NVC and really living it as we try to share NVC with others. I'd love for us all to become more skilled at actually living NVC as we share it, because I believe that's the most effective way of transmitting the gifts this practice has to offer.

In this workshop, we'll look at what challenges us when we're trying to share NVC with others, and work together to try to learn how to show up in ways that more effectively convey NVC consciousness. We might, for example, consider questions like:

• To what extent do we feel that NVC offers the "right" way of doing things, and how do our beliefs about this show up?
• What might those we cast in the role of "students" (or peers) do that trigger us, "hooK' us, leading us to judge, and to want to correct or fix what they're doing?
• How do we engage someone who's not doing what we think they "should" be doing?
• What have you seen others do in the name of NVC that you haven't enjoyed?
• How do you offer others feedback?

I envision us doing role-plays, offering us opportunities to:

• Experiment with different ways of handling situations
• Experience what it's like to be on the receiving end of different approaches
• Bring to the surface the unspoken dynamics of what people might be thinking when interactions get challenging

Perhaps we'll also have a chance to become more aware of what goes on inside us, and to examine and possibly transform core beliefs that affect how we show up.

Let's come prepared to experiment and discover together, in the interests of learning to practice and share NVC in a deeper way.

Who This is For

This workshop is intended for those who have an interest in sharing NVC with others, whether in a formal workshop format, or less formally.  Participants should have a fairly solid grounding in NVC already.  This session is associated with Capital NVC's Local Leadership Program.

Logistics

When:

One of

Saturday February 18 from 1:30-4:30 pm
Sunday February 26 from 1:30-4:30 pm
Sunday March 4 from 1:30-4:30 pm
Saturday March 10 from 1:30-4:30 pm
Sunday March 11 from 1:30-4:30 pm

Actual date will be determined based on availablity of those who express an interest prior to February 9. Let me know you're interested and I'll send you a link to a poll.

Where:

To be determined, likely in the Maryland suburbs of DC.

Price:

Paid for by Capital NVC as an investment in our community. Contributions are invited to help cover our costs.

Registration:

Please contact Bob as soon as possible if you are interested in participating.
 

Facilitator

Bob Wentworth, PhD is certified as a trainer by the Center for Nonviolent Communication, and serves on their Board of Directors as the only member from North America. He is a co-founder of Family HEART Camp, an NVC immersion experience for parents and children. He coaches couples and individuals, leads classes and workshops for Capital NVC,  is a graduate of the BayNVC North American NVC Leadership Program and Robert Gonzales' LIFE Program, and has received training in mediation, facilitating Restorative Circles, and a variety of practices for inner healing.  Bob has a Ph.D. in Applied Physics from Stanford University.

The group that is forming from the Manske Nov 2011 Financial Integrity workshop met on January 27 and plans to meet monthly in the future.  (It will not be announced as an event in the future.)  Write to janemconnor [at] gmail [dot] com if you are interested in joining the group, which is designed to support people attempting to follow the program outlined in "Your Money or Your Life" 9-step program and book by Vicki Robin and Joe Dominguez. 

Facilitation of this group will rotate.  We will have a short program and check-ins each time.

In January we spent time talking about what each of us wanted and how we each wanted support.  Each of us had a chance to clarify goals and what would support us, and so  several of us are checking in with others between meetings.  

The next meeting will at 7:00 pm, February 23, and at a Silver Spring location, less than 15 minutes walk from Metro.

Date: Saturday, June 23, 2012

Time: 1:00-6:00 p.m.

Location: Silver Spring, Maryland

Leader: Lynd Morris, CNVC Certified Trainer

Tuition: $60-$150*, sliding scale (you decide the highest amount you can easily and joyfully contribute)

To Register: Please email Lynd Morris to register or ask questions

* This training is open to all applicants, regardless of ability to pay the requested tuition. Please contact Lynd if you have any questions.

NVC is a way of communicating that its creator, Marshall Rosenberg, Ph.D., calls a language of life. As we learn and practice NVC, we become increasingly able to hear the vitality and aliveness in others and in ourselves. And simultaneously, we finding ourselves living with greater compassion and curiosity toward everyone we encounter.

Many people who read about Nonviolent Communication (NVC) or hear about it from a relative, friend, or colleague are heartened by how simple it sounds. What could be challenging about including observations, feelings, needs, and requests in our communications? However, what most of us discover when we begin to incorporate these four components into our conversations with others (especially when one or both of us is upset), is that simple to learn is not always easy to live.

One of the most effective ways to learn NVC and begin to live it, is to spend time with other people who are doing the same thing. In this introduction to NVC, we’ll use large and small group exercises as well as partner practices to explore the basic tools of this transformational way of being in relationship with others. And, we'll practice applying these tools to situations from our own lives.

Lynd Morris is an NVC trainer certified by the global Center for Nonviolent Communication. She graduated from the 2005 North America NVC Leadership Program and has participated in the NVC LIFE Program since it began in 2006. For almost 7 years she has led NVC classes and workshops in Maryland and Virginia and has participated in or assisted at numerous NVC trainings and family camps across the United States. Lynd is a founding member of Capital NVC and is a member of the Still Water Mindfulness Practice Center in Silver Spring, Maryland. In 1997, she was ordained as a lay member of Thich Nhat Hanh’s Order of Interbeing.